Wedding Infatuated

When you’re planning a wedding it is not uncommon to feel a little extra tension between you and your fiance. Some feuds have even been enough to break couples up before the wedding ever happens. However, these little tiffs should certainly not get in the way of healthy couples.

Often times this extra stress simply comes from the fact that time becomes a little short when a wedding is on the horizon. Between arranging the guest list, shopping for decor and rushing off to bridal showers you have likely had less time together than normal. If this sounds like you the remedy is likely an easy one… spend time together. Grand romantic gestures may not be the best at this time. Try renting a movie and cuddling on the couch once a week. If the intimacy levels between you and your sweetie are slipping now you may be setting up a harmful start to your marriage. Even small touches on your fiances shoulders or back can send a loving message. The touch of a lover can have a soothing effect and these little things can make a big difference in the long run.

Perhaps your problems go much deeper. Maybe you question if this person is the one. Maybe you fight a little more frequently and loudly than you think is healthy. If this is the case you may consider taking a step back and really evaluating the cause of these fights or feelings. If, after contemplating, you determine it is simply stress then there is likely nothing much to worry about. If, on the other hand, you uncover some deeper unresolved issues you may need to discuss these problems with your fiance. Share your concerns and fears and you may just be surprised by how simple the solution.

The last suggestion I can offer, if you’re suffering from a few premarital relationship issues, is to read Dr. John Gottman. Dr. Gottman has written several books on relationships and his advice can really help couples get through those tough times.

Whatever your problem, whatever your solution, just try to remember that a wedding is only one day and this relationship should be forever. If the wedding is causing so much stress that it’s hurting the relationship it may be time to reassess your priorities.