May 21 2008
Honoring Loved Ones
When someone dies within a year or two of your wedding day, the impact can be felt. Weddings are already highly emotional occasions and it’s not uncommon to think about those who we’ve recently lost at this time. When someone very important to the couple dies, it can be a good sentiment to still include that special person in your special day.
One great way to do this is through the music. My grandfather’s favorite song was Ave Maria. Songs like this make for great processional music. You can note the song’s importance in your program. You can also include a little snippet about the person to help everyone understand how integral this person was in your lives. If your loved one’s taste in music was less than appropriate for the ceremony, carry it over to the reception. Make an announcement that you will be dancing with your father to your mother’s favorite song, or whatever the case may be.
Another way to remember your loved one is through images. You can display a few pictures of the couple with the person you wish to remember surrounding your guest book or gift table. You can also incorporate photos of this person in a slide show if you choose to add that to your reception.
Whatever you choose to do to remember your friend or family member just realize that it will likely be very touching and emotional. There is a psychological effect as well, however. Honoring a person on your big day lets everyone know how important this person was and it can help you let go and move on. If there is someone who was once in your life that regrettably cannot attend your wedding, please don’t leave them out of your wedding.
